Sidney Falbo, your life has forever changed our own. You lived courageously with passion and conviction. Fearlessly claiming the right to freedom in gender identity and sexual orientation.
You have shined a light on this world that will never be dimmed. Giving us permission to be released from our physical limitations, and to live as spirit. Now we are unincumbered by an illusion of false identity and free to live undefined and limitless as intended.
“Say not in grief he(she) is no more – but live in thankfulness that he(she) was.”
-Hebrew Proverb
The point is not that she passed from this realm. The point is that she lived. Her imprint on the story of mankind is permanent, never to be stamped out, and never forgotten.
Freedom of Gender Identity – Freedom of All Identity
Dear Sid,
Your life was on purpose, created by divine intent.
The story of your life and of who you were is a testament to the power of spirit and to the fact that the soul never dies. Even in your afterlife, your story and lived experience lead us forward. You give us cause, to break barriers, question, and celebrate all that is yet to be explored and acknowledged in the great unknown.
You taught us that love is powerful because of its simplicity. There are no rules to it. No limitations. No one is denied it. Everyone is granted it. All one must do is eradicate the fear and the deception. Accept what is. Love is all there is.
You have always seen more than the rest of us. Able to look past all the noise and distractions, able to target the truth in every situation. Known for being able to see people for who they really are – not a body, but something much more…spirit and soul.
It makes sense that you would be so aware of something greater and undefined. Your identity, gender, and sexual orientation crossed lines that few others dared to cross.
Defined by your determination to NOT be defined. Understanding that to achieve limitless potential, one must not be defined. For to be defined is to be limited. Your knowledge of this is what sets you apart – as a rare and beautiful soul.
A butterfly will flap its wings with both cause and effect. Its cause will transcend the spaces between, spanning the breadth of sea, and so then affect in a distant land.
Freedom of My Own Identity – Thank You Sid
The crossing of our paths was divine intervention. Tiny things, set into motion, several years before, leading to our meeting. Looking back, it becomes clear, that your story was meant for me to hear. God new that I would be better for it.
There has been an identity crisis within myself for almost my entire life. My sexual orientation has been at odds from day one, with the religion I was raised to believe and practice.
I now understand and acknowledge that I am spirit and not defined by my physical body. This idea fits with what I have come to understand about my own faith.
I can either run forever from the idea of faith and spirituality, or I can courageously find my own faith and my own truth. If this faith is a truth that respects all mankind, lives and let lives, and acknowledges the spiritual powers that be…how could this not be in line with what mankind should be?
It is said that we were created in God’s image. So then, why do some continuously try to create a version of God that reflects their own image.
If we are not of the body, but are of spirit…
Then should we not celebrate those that identify on the margins? Pushing the limitations of the human mind so as to become one with the infinite and limitless mind of God?
Is this not how we celebrate who we really are? Is this not our calling?
I believe the answer is to dispense with the adjectives that for so long provided mankind with definition, but in the end, left us confined and condemned to limitation.
It is time to take a page from the book of Sidney’s life…
Sidney’s life and the courage in which she lived, is my inspiration. Her story is a wind that catches my sails and carries me onwards. I will honor her, by living courageously and openly with my contradicting identity.
I am undefined and beautiful because of it. My identity is my own. My sexual orientation is my own. My faith is my own. No need to be defined. I am limitless just as divine intent would have me be.
To My Dear Friend Corina (Mother of Sidney Falbo),
You may at times, feel left behind. But you need not feel this way. May this entry help you find peace – not by asking you to live an illusion, but by enabling you to see the truth. For truth is the beauty of what really is.
Corina, your daughter showed more courage in her life than I ever thought possible. That courage is because of you and who you are.
Because of you, Sid was able to stand tall and own who she was. She was authentic and unapologetically open about her gender identity, sexual orientation, and her mental health.
She spoke up when others could not. She lived openly just as you taught her to live. In this way, she has given permission for others to do the same.
You, Corina, are the amazing mother of Sid. Afterall, it is you that created an environment that allowed for Sid to bloom.
Sidney’s spirit is now free and exists in everlasting peace. She wants of nothing. She needs of nothing. Sid is now able to exist fully self-actualized.
Sidney’s life and positive affects it left on this world, are in no small part because of you Corina. You are still here. And we are here with you. These precious moments are not to be wasted.
Take my hand. We have work to do…
When one loses faith for a fragment of time,
Another must step in to fill the void.
When you lose faith on a dark day,
We fill the gaps until you see light once again.
We will answer each other’s prayer.
We will be each other’s miracle.
Spirit…We see you.
For we too are spirit.
We answer the call and remember who we are.
We take flight and soar into eternity.
Thanks for Reading.
Sincerely,
Kurt Petersen
Sidney Falbo was run over by a dump truck while riding her bike to a SRJC class on October 30, 2018 on Stony Point Road crossing Highway 12. She was twenty years old. We make sure to keep Sidney’s memory alive. We are on a mission to ensure that Sidney’s death not be in vain. We view her death as one that could have been prevented if the right safe guards had been put into place. We ask that you check out the following to help in this endeavor. Thanks everyone. #WE STAND FOR SID!!!!!!!
This is beautiful ~ I did not know Sid , but I am so proud of who he/she was. I’m sure it took courage. ❤️
I am not surprised by Corina and the Love she has for Sid. Corina has a big heart , and loves unconditionally ~ she has always been a great friend .
A great Mom !!
Wow!! How truly blessed I feel to have read this masterpiece. Your words truly envelop who our Sid was. A true testament of who our Corina is and what a blessing they both are. Thank you for sharing.
Christina he were friends with my sister in high school I remember you guys singing all the time I’m sorry I didn’t know your daughter Sydney but really me but reading her story brings tears to my eyes you were wonderful mother when I can understand I know she’s above shutting down on you and I’m sure she changed a lot of lives you should be proud of who she was and who she is now even though she’s in heaven
What a beautiful understanding you have shared with us , a genuine prospective to teach us all about Love , Uniqueness and Geniuses . A Beautiful tribute to my niece and grand niece through something that is tangible when sometimes we feel the world is cruel . We miss and Love you Sis .
Love Aunt Micki
This was absolutely beautifully put together. Sid was one of a kind, a special one of a kind. She was a great kid. A loving and caring kid. Her mother
corona is an amazing, strong, kind and loving women. She holds herself together very well for what had happened.
Love you Sid. I’ll never forget what you did for me, helping me figure out my own identity. I still have the art that you made me and the stories you wrote me. Forever and always, Ky.