I was watching the final episode (Season 1, Episode 10) of ‘Alert, Missing Persons Unit’. In one of the final scenes, reincarnated detective Kemi Adebayo (Adeola Role) speaks some of the most beautiful words and shares one of the most beautiful lessons of the spirit. I am well aware that this is a fictional show, but I know in my heart, there is truth in the lines shared below.
“They say that when you lose someone you love, that you also lose a piece of yourself. The soul fractures. When tragedy happens, our soul flees from us. Hiding as a way to protect itself from the pain.“
“We call this ‘soul loss’. Pieces of our soul get stuck dwelling in the past, unable to move forward.“
“In the physical world, matter can neither be created or destroyed. This is the same for the spiritual world. No matter what, you can not lose your soul.“
“Grief is the act of soul retrieval. And if we commit ourselves to it, the soul will, in time, return to its intact state.”
We Are More Than Body, We Are Soul
First, I guess, you would have to share in my belief that we are souls within the physical body. And you would have to share in my belief of what the soul is: an infinite spiritual force, that connects us to each other.
When most people ask for proof of a belief, we think in terms of the only thing we know….physical proof. Those things we can see for ourselves. It’s interesting. For me, the knowing of the soul’s existence is a deep feeling of undeniable truth.
Most people believe in another force that can be felt but not seen. Love is not seen. We see what we believe are demonstrations of love. But we cannot see love itself. It too can only be felt. And yet, most believe of its existence without question.
In fact, for me, love and the soul are one and the same. If at any moment I lose faith in the existence of the soul and of who I really am, I remember the existence of love, and my faith returns to me.
Soul Loss And The Death Of My Mother
My mom died young at age 45. I was just 13 years old. Her death forever changed my life. It was the end of my childhood and the beginning of adulthood.
That first week was a living hell. I screamed at God, demanding He return my mother to me. There was no longer anything worth living for. As many of you know or can imagine, the hurt goes deep.
It is a true soul loss. You feel that a piece of your soul, a vital element of your very spiritual being, has been ripped right out of you. There simply are no words.
The sharp pains of that first week eventually subsided. But now, 25 years later, my soul is still gathering its missing pieces. That hurt I felt as a child is different now. And it sneaks up on you. You think the process of grief is complete, and then a small stone is turned and a small wound that you never knew existed needs to be healed.
The loss of my mother is no longer a living hell or burden. In many ways it has granted me some very important elements of my humanity. I know what it is to love and to be loved by a parent. And I know what it is to face loss. My life is sweeter because of it. And my soul is stronger because of the experience.
Witnessing Soul Loss Experienced By Friends And Family
There are two people in my life that have lost their children. My sister and a dear friend whom I consider another sister, not in blood, but most definitely in spirit.
It’s important to acknowledge that it is one thing to lose a parent, but I think it is quite another to lose a child. It goes against everything we have come to trust, and it defies the natural order of things.
I have no doubt that a piece of their soul is still hiding in the past, chasing after an echo of a memory. They are in grief. A few years have passed since both incidents, and the initial feeling of the cut to the soul has now scarred over. But grief is a process. It does not occur in sequential order. Grief is a journey that brings you back and forth to various points of its spectrum over time.
Any support I can give will not be from words. There aren’t any right words to say. But I can demonstrate my love which is the same as extending my soul to theirs. We are connected. I can fill in, if necessary, when their own soul is weak from the engagement with grief and healing.
Soul Loss, Soul Found
All is not lost. For the soul that is lost will always be found. The soul will always return home. Here are my favorite lines from the scene, shared just one more time:
“In the physical world, matter can neither be created nor destroyed. This is the same for the spiritual world. No matter what, you cannot lose your soul.”
“Grief is the act of soul retrieval. And if we commit ourselves to it, the soul will, in time, return to its intact state.”
I cannot prove this to you or anyone. At least, I cannot show you something for your physical eyes to see. But I feel the truth of these lines in my own soul. I trust it and it makes sense to me.
It’s like when you are searching for a word that is just beyond your reach to describe or make sense of a feeling. These lines and chosen words do that for me. It’s like I feel a soft click where the perfect key opens a lock that I never knew existed.
Grief is a process we can trust. We can let go because we no longer need to grasp at a soul that we fear will leave us forever. I speak of our own souls that have been ripped from the personal loss we have experienced. But more importantly I also speak of the soul no longer here in the physical.
A soul cannot be created or destroyed. It is the definition of infinity. Those we have lost can now be found. Their soul is still very much apart of the universe. So too, is our own soul. And our souls are forever joined together in the cosmos.
Thanks For Reading. Sincerely, Kurt Petersen
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